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A Habit That Changed How I Connect With People

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I want to share a habit I’ve been doing for a while now that I really recommend to everyone.

You probably already know about journaling — reflecting on your day, writing things down in a notebook, your phone, or a notes app before going to sleep. That’s great. But I want to put the spotlight on something a bit more specific: Reflecting on your Conversation and interactions with people.

So here’s what I do:

Whenever I have an interaction with someone — say we talk during lunch or hang out for a bit — I make a point of reflecting on that interaction. Usually, I’ll do it right after, like when I’m walking home. I’ll go over how the conversation went, what they said, how they reacted, how I felt during it. All of that.

Because here’s the thing: If you don’t reflect soon after the interaction, you’ll just forget all those little details. And those details? They’re gold.

When you reflect right away, you can catch all these subtle things — ideas, insights, little personality traits they revealed — and write them down. Then the next time you hang out, boom, you’ve got something new to talk about. A follow-up. A deeper question. A new angle.

This is how you never run out of things to talk about.

I really believe this is something people don’t do enough. We have conversations, but we don’t leverage them. We move on, we forget, we stay surface level.

But when you take the time to reflect on those interactions, it opens up so much potential. You learn more about them — who they are, what makes them tick. But you also learn more about yourself — your values, your differences, what kind of person you are in contrast to them.

And we’re surrounded by so many different people. Each one is an opportunity to reflect, to compare, to learn.

It takes effort. It’s not always easy. But it’s so rewarding.

So here’s my challenge for you: Next time you have a deep conversation — something over an hour — take time afterward to reflect. Write down three follow-up questions you’d want to ask that person the next time you meet. This keeps the connection alive. It builds depth. It makes every conversation count.

This ties into the app I’ve been working on called Exo — it’s almost done, by the way. If you want to try it out, just DM me. The whole point of Exo is to store questions and conversation topics tied to specific people. So whenever you meet up with them again, you’ve got a list of things you already wanted to talk about.

It helps you stay intentional. Curious. Present.

Because through questions, you discover people. And through people, you discover yourself.

So yeah, to wrap it all up:

  1. Listen closely during conversations.

  2. Reflect on them soon after.

  3. Write things down for later.

And that’s pretty much it.

Let me know if you’d like more videos like this or if you’re down for a deeper dive into this topic. I might do a longer video next month. But yeah, for now — I’m heading to bed.

Good night.

Tweet Ideas Based on This Habit (Short, Insightful, and Powerful)

  1. The secret to never running out of things to talk about: reflect after you talk to someone. Write down 3 follow-up questions. Repeat.

  2. Most people journal about their day. Few people journal about their conversations. That’s where the magic is.

  3. You don’t really get to know someone during a conversation. You get to know them after, when you reflect on what they said.

  4. Conversations aren’t just about talking — they’re data. If you don’t reflect after, you’re throwing the best insights away.

  5. Want to build deeper friendships? Reflect. Write. Ask thoughtful follow-ups. It’s that simple.

  6. You learn about yourself through people. When you notice how they’re different, you discover who you really are.

  7. Every conversation is a doorway to a better relationship. But only if you follow up.

  8. Want to stand out in someone’s life? Remember what they said last time — and ask them more about it next time.

  9. Most people don’t reflect after socializing. That’s why most relationships plateau.

  10. Great listeners ask great questions. But the best ones prepare those questions ahead of time.

  11. Reflected conversations become connected conversations.

  12. Reflect. Write. Ask. Repeat. That’s the relationship cheat code.

  13. One of the most underrated productivity hacks: process your conversations like you process your tasks.

  14. I built an app (Exo) that helps you never run out of things to say to the people you care about. DM if you want to try it.

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