- As I share in this(Do they want to talk about it) story, I’m generally comfortable in talking about anything whatsoever, but the only reason I stop myself is that I worry that the other person is not comfortable in listening/talking about it. My current solution is to do what I mentioned in the above note. Not the best way but it’s not bad.
- was faced with the same situation during class. One of our team members asked us if anyone here has a long term goal/purpose. It got interrupted by someone else saying something unrelated. I would have loved to talk about it and see if anyone share the same beliefs/thoughts on purpose but I ended up not bringing back the conversation to that question. I didn’t know if other people wanted to talk about it. I didn’t wanna be the only one who shared something about it. I feel like I would be bragging if I was the only one who’s sharing about their purpose.
- despite struggling to connect with each other about purpose, we were able to communicate about many of our struggles/vulnerabilities with each other. One big topic we discussed was reflecting.
- Most of us shared that they struggled to find time to reflect, and because of having several things to deal with in our lives, even though we try to reflect deeply, we still fail
- One big realization I had was noticing the power of initially building trust with the person you’re talking it. The way we think during a conversation fundamentally changes when we trust the listeners with our words
- I personally believe that I lie in the far left of this spectrum (how much trust do you have to have to be able to engage in a meaningful conversation)
- I believe that fact that a few of us seem to be in the far left, it was extremely helpful help get the ball rolling.
- from what I observed, it seemed like a few other people were also on the left side of the spectrum. I believe that really helped with getting the ball rolling with sharing more personal thoughts.
- Through that process of others sharing their personal stories, their level of trust with the group increases hence they start sharing personal thoughts.