- e.g: I want to approach a woman
- as a man, we always get the urge to approach women in our day-to-day
- as soon as we see something we like, we automatically think of what we should do to spread our seed to them
- but then right after feeling the urge we start remembering all the reasons we shouldn’t do that (a.k.a our rational /irrational brain comes in: Ego, Conscience) - and they are a lot.
- it is crucial to analyze these reasons deeply because they might reveal some limiting beliefs that you hold for yourself
- some typical things that we would think include:
- she might have a boyfriend
- she might be busy
- etc…
- these are all valid reasons. But here are some invalid ones:
- what if she thinks I’m a creep
- she’s too good for me
- she’s out of my league
- I’m not worth being talked to (by someone like her)
- etc…
- what I want to focus on is the excuses we give ourselves to justify not approaching them
- if you continue to use them, they get stronger and stronger, so that belief will get harder and harder to lose
- another thing that happens is that:the second you reminding yourself that you can’t do what you want to do, that gets reinforced and the effects ripple to other areas of your life
- Winning vs losing
- by you accepting these false beliefs, you are subscribing to the idea that you are a loser because you have failed before you even tried, which is the worst way to lose. Because you lose with no tangible reason behind it except the fact that you didn’t go for it and that is extremely demotivating