• is it because Iā€™m worried about external circumstances that Iā€™m unable to control (like bad WiFi causing my audio to lag)

    • maybe I can tell the person Iā€™m talking to ā€œif at any moment something gets cut off from what Iā€™m saying, please cut me off so that I can be reassured that everything that Iā€™m ā€
  • or is it because I donā€™t trust myself in these situations?

  • neither

  • I think I found the root cause: Iā€™m still scared of silence in conversations

  • I havenā€™t tested that theory out but I really think it would help:

    • whenever we both are in the call, we take like 5-10 seconds of just having a deep breath and being comfortable with the silence
    • by doing this, I would train myself to remain in control of my emotions and also make it a ā€˜normā€™ for us to be silent and not needing to blurt something out