• is it because I’m worried about external circumstances that I’m unable to control (like bad WiFi causing my audio to lag)

    • maybe I can tell the person I’m talking to “if at any moment something gets cut off from what I’m saying, please cut me off so that I can be reassured that everything that I’m ”
  • or is it because I don’t trust myself in these situations?

  • neither

  • I think I found the root cause: I’m still scared of silence in conversations

  • I haven’t tested that theory out but I really think it would help:

    • whenever we both are in the call, we take like 5-10 seconds of just having a deep breath and being comfortable with the silence
    • by doing this, I would train myself to remain in control of my emotions and also make it a ‘norm’ for us to be silent and not needing to blurt something out