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The Power of Habits: Unlocking Your Full Potential

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For the longest time, I hesitated to share my raw thoughts on YouTube. Why? Because I felt like I needed flashy edits and dopamine-inducing effects to keep people watching. But I’m coming to realize something—I’m not here to entertain; I’m here to share ideas that help you unlock your full potential. So I plan to finally release all these hidden gems that I have in my notes that I never had the time to put out. Starting with the video you are watching now.

The importance of habits

We are creatures of habit. Every action we take, from the moment we wake up to the way we structure our day, is rooted in habits. The beauty of this? Habits can be changed. If you believe you can change your habits, you can become whoever you want to be.

Take my own experience, for example. I don’t eat in the mornings. It’s a habit I developed over time, and now it feels natural. It’s like a muscle—the more you work on it, the stronger it gets. In other words what I’m trying to say is: Everything you do—how you act, react, talk, eat, sleep, study, work, ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING—is shaped by habits. And like muscles, habits can be strengthened. That means you have the power to shape yourself into whoever you want to be. Take a second to actually internalize that. Because having that belief is tied to having a growth mindset, which we will talk about more in this video.

And the reason I added that everything is a muscle is because it takes time & effort to strengthen a habit, but if you stick with it day in and day out, it slowly becomes effortless.

This might be an extreme case, but it took me over 3 years to fully quit the habit of consuming pornography and PMO in general. I made a whole video on that if you’d like to check it out. I would say that it is my proudest release to date. No pun intended! But yeah, that is an extreme case. In most cases, it takes several weeks. People often talk about the 21-day rule for forming or breaking habits. While it’s not a strict rule, it’s a good guideline to keep in mind.

How Habits Shape Our Diet

Let’s start by talking about the role of habits and how it influences what and when we eat. Growing up, my parents always emphasized that breakfast was the most important meal of the day. Every morning, I’d have things like milk, eggs, a sandwich before school. It was a routine, something I did without thinking.

But when I went to university, I decided to try something different. Instead of eating right away, I used my mornings for deep, focused work. The first few days were tough. In a way, it felt like my body was saying, “Yo bro, what are you doing? This isn’t right!” But after a few weeks, that inner resistance started to fade, and my sense of hunger gradually disappeared as well. Now, three years later, I still continue to expand on this habit. And even though it’s just a small thing, I still feel like it has drastically influenced who I am as a person. This is the thing about making and breaking habits - sometimes the benefits of them are not fully obvious. But take a moment to yourself: “If I’m someone who skips breakfast to stay focused, who else am I? What else am I capable of?”, or “If I can control my urges and resist temptation, what other areas of my life can I master?”

It’s like a domino effect, where one change influences another change in another area of your life. In other words, changing your habits changes your identity, and once you change your identity, you’re a different person.

This change didn’t happen overnight. For my food example, I started by diving into work for the first two hours of my day and then rewarding myself with food. (Here’s another question: “If I’m the kind of person who only eats once they accomplish something. Who else am I?”) Over time, I noticed I didn’t even need breakfast. Delaying it for two, three, or even four more hours didn’t make me feel hungry. That’s when I had another realization: once you change your habits and get used to a new routine, the old one fades away.

This idea connects to the notion that everything is a muscle. A year ago at the gym, you might have only been able to bench 100 pounds. But because you had the habit of benching every week consistently, now you can bench 150. You have physically changed yourself because of your continuous habit of benching every week. The same principle applies to your mind. Just as muscles grow with consistent resistance, your mind is equally—if not more—capable of adapting and strengthening through repeated challenge and effort

Notice how change, transformation, habits, and muscles all tie together?

The Role of Environment

One of the most eye-opening moments came when I went back home. Being in my old environment—back with my family, in the same setting where I grew up—brought back my old habits. Suddenly, I felt the urge to eat breakfast again. It was like muscle memory kicking in.

This experience taught me just how much our environment shapes our habits. It’s not just about food—this applies to anything you want to change in life. If you can control your environment, you can use it to your advantage.

Sometimes, you change habits without even noticing. It’s often because of your environment and the people you surround yourself with. This can be a blessing or a curse, depending on how you use it. That’s why it’s essential to be mindful of who you surround yourself with. Their habits will naturally influence yours, whether you like it or not.

But yeah, as soon as I returned to university, I fell right back into my routine of skipping breakfast. That’s another lesson: even if you lose a good habit, you can easily bring it back by exposing yourself to the right environment. I unfortunately didn’t have that lesson engrained

Failing is part of the journey

One example in my personal life where I would have benefited from this lesson is related to my pornography addiction. I’d have several weeks or months where I wouldn’t do it, but then something would happen like I start feeling extremely lonely and I would relapse. What I used to do was I would go back straight into my old ways as soon as I relapsed, thinking “Oh I might as well ‘make the best out of it’”, but as I learned, this kind of thinking only reinforces the old habits. Imagine your habits as a video game. Every action toward your goal earns you 1 point, and every slip-up costs you 5 points. Unfortunately, I did not have that mindset but instead, my mindset was: every time I go against my desired habit, I lose all my points. All the hundred days of being sober becomes zero. But that is not true, and you have to remind yourself of that once you do fail at something for whatever reason. You have to remind yourself that you have grown in the past hundred days before failing once; these 100 days were not for nothing. This idea can be tied to anything you’re trying to quit or change. Like eating habits, quitting a certain drug, or vaping.

The journey of change is not easy, you will face setbacks. But you will come to notice one important truth: the people who succeed aren’t the ones who never fail—they’re the ones who refuse to quit.

And this can be tied not only to habits, but also to life in general with achieving things. I can go on and on about Persistence and its importance, but that’s for another video. But as a TL;DR: I believe that it is not possible to achieve anything meaningful and impactful in life without persistence. Which also ties to two other ideas: Discipline and motivation. Which I’ll also talk about in another video. Let me know down in the comments what you guys would like to me to talk about more. Do you guys struggle with discipline, motivation, persistence? Let me know.

Overcoming Deep-Rooted Habits

One of the hardest habits I’ve had to change was my addiction to pornography. It was rooted in deep subconscious motivations I wasn’t even aware of. The solution? Understanding myself more—understanding my motivations, why I did certain things. “What emotion was I struggling to deal with? Lonliness. Why was I feeling lonely?” So you continuously ask yourself ‘why’ until you reach the root cause.

From there, the fight becomes easier because you know who you’re fighting against and you know what it takes to win the battle and this is partly how I overcame my addiction.

This takes a lot of reflection and being honest with yourself but understanding yourself is extremely rewarding. Let me know if you’d like a video on why it is rewarding and how to reap the rewards.

Make it your identity

One thing I learned while trying to overcome my addiction was through a book called Atomic Habits: if you want to break a habit, don’t just try to break it—become the kind of person who doesn’t do it. For example, instead of saying, “I’m trying to quit pornography,” which implies that you have not yet succeeded, you can reframe it to, “I am someone who does not consume pornography.” This shift in language reinforces the idea that I am not the kind of person who engages in that behavior.

By framing your identity in this way and sharing it with others, you strengthen both the social aspect of my commitment and my personal belief in who I am and what I am capable of achieving.

One habit at a time

It’s hard to transform yourself drastically in several areas of your life all at once. Instead, focus on one major habit that can fix several problems you’re facing. For me, it was pornography. It took years, but the rewards have been carrying me in several areas of my life and will continue to. Similar to the idea that we mentioned previously: “If I’m the kind of person who is able to control my deep, biological, sexual urges, then who else am I?”

Over time, as you become the kind of person who is always capable of changing and growing, the process of change becomes easier and faster. The hardest part is starting and having the persistence to continue as we previously mentioned.

How to track your progress

Tracking your habits is crucial. Find a system that works for you—whether it’s an app, a notebook, or a whiteboard. The key is to care about the results. If you don’t care, the tracking system won’t work.

It is very important to track habits to quantify your progress, especially at first, because benefits usually take time to show up. So you need other forms of motivation to help you keep going. One of them could be just tracking your progress. This tracking can be done in any way you prefer. The most crucial aspect is to ensure that what you are tracking is something you genuinely care about. Sometimes, I notice that when I try to break a habit and track it in an app, I do not feel a strong motivation to succeed in that tracking. I may even forget to log it in the app daily, which indicates that I do not care if the app shows a 0% completion rate. In such cases, the tracking system is ineffective. You need to find a system that makes you care about how the tracking looks. Is it 50% done? Is it 75% done? You must genuinely care about those metrics.

For you to actually achieve that, there are two main things you have to check off. First, make sure that you deeply care about the habit you are tracking. Try to write down your motivations for starting this new habit (in other words the “Why” behind the habit. Put it somewhere where you can easily remind yourself of them. And second, find a tracking system that works for you, be it an app, a notebook, or a whiteboard.

Visualization and Self-Belief

Visualization is a powerful tool. It’s tied to self-identity. If you can visualize yourself doing things you’ve never done before, you open yourself up to the idea that you’re capable of becoming that person.

One habit you could adopt is to create a list every morning of things you want to imagine yourself being or doing. For example, if you want to confidently present in front of a class, visualize it. Feel the emotions, deeply connect with the person you’re imagining. Over time, your brain will believe it, and it will manifest. Once you strongly believe in that, change becomes easy. You have overcome the biggest hurdle in change: Yourself

We resist change because we think our way is the only right way. But in reality, there are multitudes of ways to accomplish certain things and some might be better than what you currently do. We just have to try them. This is tied to having a Growth Mindset, where we believe that we can improve and change through effort and learning. I can also go deeped into it in another video if you guys would be interested. But for now, all I will say is: It’s easier said than done because it’s such a core human trait.

Self-Awareness and Growth

Self-awareness is crucial. It allows you to notice your flaws and be honest with yourself. Many people are blind to their flaws because they lack self-awareness. This is especially true for men, who often believe they’re always right. This mindset can lead to problems in relationships and personal growth that could be avoided through greater empathy for others and an understanding of how they think.

Take Action

Habits are the foundation of who we are. They shape our lives, our behaviors, and our identities. If you want to unlock your full potential, start by changing your habits. Focus on one at a time, track your progress, and surround yourself with the right environment.

Believe in your ability to change. Visualize the person you want to become. And most importantly, take action. Start today.

If you’re struggling with some sort of addiction that you really want to overcome, I highly recommend you guys to check out my video on how to overcome pornography where I basically go more in-depth on everything that I mentioned here. And the lessons there can be applied to any sort of addiction.

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